Something to think about:
How often did you feel either you are not good enough or not doing enough?
While us as women stepped up to pursue financial independence, questioned the status quo and reclaimed our existence and identity. Have we really succeeded in attaining Emotional Independence?
To describe one of the women I met recently, she is a compassionate human, mother, wife, employee among st many other roles that she plays in her life – Yet she believes she is not good enough because her partner does not value her.
Most amazing women I meet surprise me when they say statements such as “I am not good enough”, I am not interesting”, ” I don’t deserve good things” or ” I am not beautiful”….
And by no means, I am confining this to women because gender is again another label we created and striving to fit into.
Another man whom I met, he is a hard working guy, highly self-aware and considers his family time is the most essential part of his life and his success is the happiness of his family but believes he is failing as a dad because his kids don’t think he is funny enough.
Many men are equally sharing responsibilities with women both at work and personal lives. Most of the men I coach consider family well-being and happiness as epitome of their success as much as women do.
Yet, I often hear the same statements as I stated above from men too.
In the process of pursuing financial stability, I wonder if we hooked our happiness and contentment to the emotions of others who are close to us and thereby forgot to remind ourselves, happiness and contentment comes from within. This may be the root cause for not accepting ourselves as we are and accepting life for what it is?
What if you can just do these two things from today and be a dew drop on the leaf?
1. Tell this to yourself from today:
“I am always more than enough” and let the happiness and contentment overflow to others around us.
2. Observe how emotionally independent you are and what are your triggers for you to react emotionally
